I think sometimes how sweet it would be to have an hour with my mother again. She passed on in 1991. She was always ready with a word of encouragement or advice that really just made me look deep inside my heart.
We all need someone special that provides “a word fitly spoken”. Many times we have a friend throughout our lives that we can depend on to always be there for us. But sometimes life comes along and changes people. So as women we need to be resourceful.
It is wonderful to find that when our daughters blossom into women, that we can talk to as equals, and it is such a pleasant surprise when we find they are sometimes smarter than we were at that age. I am extremely lucky to have two daughters that I find so easy to love, and that we can now have a mutual respect for the other’s experiences.
I have always laid store in the fact that I had a friend, who I was close to for over 40 years. I always pictured the two of us sitting in our rocking chairs on our porch talking about ourselves and our memories. Many things can happen to change the reality of that dream. Things we have no control over. It can be death or sickness or distance that changes things. Sometimes it can be such a gradual growing apart, that you don’t even realize it’s happening. Still agonizing to feel the loss of that special something.
Then is when we need to be resourceful. For some reason I have been dreaming of my mother recently. She is always there being quietly supportive, perhaps she is really just a part of me. We take the best parts of those we have love and lost and make them a part of us as we mature.
I would encourage you, as you tackle your day. To talk to the one you love and miss, even imagine them telling you something (let your heart hear their voice)…they may be absent, but all the people you love are still a part of your subconscious. I can hear a song that brings tears to my eyes, or makes me laugh, and I allow myself to feel the feelings…miss the person but keep them in my heart.
As we grow older, life becomes so dear and the smallest kindness is treasured. We should never isolate ourselves from new relationships and new friendships. People need interaction with other people to keep them real…to keep them balanced and even if they are not that friend of 40 years. God will continue to bless his children – us. And it seems we each have a life assignment and if negative forces determined to separate us from the feelings of self worth and individuality…we need to remember that nothing can separate us from the love of God, and that we all have a path that is right for us. No one can tell you what your truth is! There are always those who will try, but hang on to your authenticness, your individuality and bloom where you are, letting God bless you and who you are and who you are meant to be.
The ones you love are always near you, even when you may feel alone and lonely. Embrace yourself and Embrace each day! Love, Pray and Live! …and even embrace change, as it always happens.
Love you Mom!!! xo